On Sunday afternoon I was lucky enough to go to a story telling meeting of a group called, “Fish & Bear”. According to their website, youtellyours.com, Fish & Bear is a small group that sits and tells stories with no preparation, no judgement and no competition. The brilliant, Lynn Ferguson, sets the story exercises and everyone just tells their truth.
What I love about this group is that by listening to others stories you realize that as much as we’d like to pretend that we are all so different, there are more aspects that are the same. Yes, this group is about you telling your own story, but if you really listen you will hear yourself in the other persons story.
I hold a monthly salon group (info below for March’s group) to answer peoples personal questions, in order to provide help and guidance in their lives. However, I always tell all the attendees to pay close attention to the answers that spirit gives other people because the answers they are looking for are often provided by the questions of others. Why?
For years, I have said our lives are like those old tee shirt ads that advertised to put your message on their shirts by writing, “Your name here” on the front. The shirt is the same it’s just the message that is different.
As humans the scenarios creating our pain is different, but the pain is the same. We all get our hearts broken, we are all betrayed, we all experience grief, we all fall in love, we all experience abandonment, and all of our parents wound us at an early age. We all experience pain…period. Does it really matter what the scenario happens to be? Not really. The purpose of pain is the same for each and every human being; to evolve.
We evolve by manifesting scenarios in our life that trigger our old wounds. Sometimes those wounds are created in our childhood but more often than not they are a pattern of pain over many lifetimes. We incarnate in order to trigger and then heal the wounds. Pain is an opportunity. The opportunity to gain spiritual knowledge. You simply don’t evolve without pain. Think about your own life, think about the painful scenarios that you manifested, and think about how you felt when you overcame them. As in Kelly Clarkson’s song, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, you evolve because of the suffering.
We continue to manifest painful moments in order to overcome all the past painful moments. The universe and you work together to provide the people and the situations for you to see your unresolved emotions. Whenever someone you know hurts your feelings…BOOM, opportunity. Whenever someone breaks your heart…BOOM, opportunity. Whenever someone betrays you…BOOM, opportunity. You get the idea.
If you really, truly want to stop experiencing so much pain you need to stop being a victim of the pain and instead evolve because of it. How? Pay attention. Pay attention to how you feel when others speak to you. Pay attention when your heart hurts. Pay attention to those knots in your stomach when someone hurts your feelings. Those feelings are your unresolved emotions. Those feelings are telling you that you need to love yourself more. The simplest way to fix it is to just say, “I love me” two to four hundred times a day until you actually believe it.
Those feelings are your story. More importantly, those feelings are everyone’s story!
Your story is everyones story it’s only the scenarios that are different.
If you are interested in attending a Fish & Bear, visit youtellyours.com.
MONTHLY SALON GROUP IS MARCH 24TH. YOU CAN SIGN UP ON THE FRONT PAGE OF MY WEBSITE.
ALSO, I am planning on giving a talk in April. Look for more information on that coming soon!
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